YOU set the limits

*This is an olddd post. you’ll learn anyways.

How has it been? It’s been one hell of a week here. From dealing with a creepy fever to being overwhelmed with almost everything, i can say this is indeed my ‘craziest’ week in July.

Prior to the beginning of this week, i built such monumental expectations like skyscrapers but sadly, they all came tumbling down like a pack of card while i stood there watching.

To be frank, I’ll not tell you I’m a super human because i get-it-all-right no. Instead what makes me a hero in my own right is that i notice my mistakes and i don’t just learn from it, i show others how to avoid it.

So back to what i said. This week met me smiling but left me puzzled. And yes, that’s what it is.

Never have i been pressed in 3months, like this week. In fact, at a point the pressure had been so much that i became so clueless about what next to do.

I’d walked away from my systematic routines, took unthinkable decisions and even had to relax some personal rules. Yet i still had such great expectations.

At a point, i looked at myself, i felt so helpless fighting these events. Then my mind began to spurn out reasons why i should just shrug it off, after all it’s not my fault.

You know, actually, i could excuse the failure to achieve my chief aim for the week on the prevailing circumstances i found my self. I could also blame it on ‘events beyond control’ but no amount of excuse will erase the fact that this wasn’t an eventful week.

I lost it big time. Yes i did. And i was only lucky i could keep my head. So that means i didn’t lose it all.

Unforeseen events will still happen. Nature will always take it’s course but you have the sole duty to decide its role in your personal life. This is exactly what i should have reminded myself.

You see, life only gives you choices. It won’t make the choice for you. And whether you decide to choose or not, it’s still a choice.

The rain may start falling the day you’re supposed to be coronated but allowing the rain to stop the coronation is a choice.

Nothing on earth. No artificial event can stop you until you stop. You are the ceiling to your personal development. You set the limits because THIS is your life.


Why Am I Here?

It begins like a brand new day and sometimes, if not for the ever present surroundings, you’ll just feel as if you’d just woken up to see the day’s light for the first time.

You then begin to find a different angle to life then with a broader understanding, you cherish the rich depth of the revelation you find.

To some people, it’s often different from this. With a feeling of loss and tears, they welcome this deep revelation of the Vision.

I think mine though was a combination of both. I felt nostalgic and the anxiety kept welling in my heart when I discovered the Vision, the purpose of being here.

I was both sad and angry. Angry that I’d been wasting precious time running away from this single thing. And not just that, i had some doubt on my ability to get it done.

You know some of us really have an idea of God’s purpose for our lives or should i say the reason for our existence on earth. But then, there are still many of us that will prefer to run away to Tarshish instead of Nineveh, like Jonah. defines purpose as the reason for which something exists or is done, made etc. So, for that fact, it is safe to say at least that everything has a purpose for which it came into existence.

Yes. Even human beings. Each and every one of us has a reason for being here. Don’t you think so?

I believe you’ll agree with me that every piece of furniture, electrical appliance and even an ordinary plate in your house has a reason for being there.

So if these inanimate things you pick from the groceries and stores are bought with a price so they can fulfill a certain end, do you think we human beings are just here for the fun of being alive?

No sir. i don’t think so ma’am! All living things existing on this earth are here for a purpose, including you. That said, have you ever asked the simple question, why am i here?

There is a reason for being here my friend. And the fact that you are aware of it or not cannot erase that reason otherwise called purpose. However, it can only remain dormant, just like a beautiful pot bought and kept without being used.

Supposing you exit the earth without executing this purpose, the gap would be there, unfilled, for generations, because there’s no other person who can do it, exactly like you.

Friend, I may not know exactly what you’re purposed to do here but i know that you got a purpose being here. There is something unique you’ve been created to do here.  And the keys ti finding it lies within you.

You could be enjoying a certain level of success right now but i can assure you, there’s nothing compared to the joy and contentment found in living a purpose driven life.

In my own experience, I had success but, there was so much yearning and a gap of discontentment, waiting to be filled.

It was struggle upon struggles until i found the reason for living. And even though, I’d tried running away from it for a long time, the day i accepted purpose was the day i began experiencing ease and real life. And i can assure you, the experience was more profound than what i captured at the opening of this article.

My friend, you could be called to be a Writer, Preacher, Lawyer, Doctor, Photographer, Artist, Caterer or whatever. Whenever you discover this call, go for it with all your strength.

I have seen celebrity Cooks, award-winning Painters and yet i have seen Doctors, Engineers and others who never tasted the joy of living because they refused to accept their distinct call of purpose.

The truth of the matter is, unlike the material world, in the human setting, no purpose is greater than the other. Each and every one of us has been purposed and given the ability to excel beyond our widest imaginations. So whatever extent we reach in this pursuit is what we have accepted either directly or indirectly.

As I close, I want to remind you dear friend that destiny and purpose is a personal thing. Don’t let the noise of what’s in vogue or the weakness of your limbs drown your willingness to pursue your purpose in life. You got the strength it takes to accomplish it. Because it was for this reason you were made.

Don’t Let Them Write You Off.

I feel bad, whenever folks look down on others, based on their assumed personalities.

Yes. Besides the fact that the tag ‘human’ grants us all a good measure of equality among God’s creations, I’m certain there is no experience, background or whatever that will erase our ‘humanity’ or nullify, our biblical standing as the most advanced creature and biological beings.

It’s very true that each person existing today is here because it was necessary so. And even without the genetic proofs of our individual uniqueness, the Bible itself and other religious scripts confirms that no single human being was created at a random.

You have been thoughtfully and fearfully created for a purpose and i can assure you that the world would never have been complete if you didn’t exist.

I may not know the incidence of your birth nor background but one thing i’m certain about is that you’ve been created because there’s something unique you have to do in this world, where no one else can do it exactly like you.

Believe me, you’re not a biological mistake. You are a treasure full of God’s power and you are capable of things beyond your best imaginations.

Don’t pity yourself. Don’t seat back and accept that tag of a ‘nobody’. It won’t do you any good. I have seen many people who were written off because of their background refused to keep their back on the ground.

I remember i usually declare this keywords to my self back then,
#i can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.
#i am created to create impact.
#i am full of God’s power, among others and it really worked wonders for me. You can choose to repeat them daily as many times as you want or you create such other Power words that will constantly remind you about who you are.

Remember, people won’t lose anything writing you off but you will. So don’t let them write you off my friend. Stand up and take your place in life today.

Why Leadership is a bridge…

Personally, i grew up to see leadership as a beautifully cruel stuff. And in order to avoid it, i grew up dodging it all through my life.

It is not just a fact that i’ve been an unrepentant introvert, i just happen to loathe taking responsibility for others. And ofcourse, my fears and concerns are personal anyway.

The other thing is, it seems i’m just wired to be so concerned about other people and most of the times, to my hurt, i try to give others the very best of any kind of support i could.

You know as a leader, sometimes you get a thank you, for your little or great efforts. At other times you get nothing but that’s not what bothers me the most.

What disturbs me is that leadership involves a whole lot of giving.

From your time, resources and every kind of support, you keep giving and giving and giving. And maybe you’re a young leader seeking so much yourself, sometimes it could be overwhelming.

You work so hard doing everything to be seen as an efffctive leader then feeling so exhausted at the end of the day, you get mad at yourself.

You know, It could go on and on like this until one finally throws in the towel. But the goodnews is, there is a way out of this maze.

As a leader, you don’t need to work yourself to death, inorder to be seen as effective. And you need to know that doing the whole job alone to please everyone but yourself doesn’t make you effective. It only saps your energy.

Along this journey, i’ve learnt that effectivenes is about producing results and for this to happen, you have to synergise and obtain the input of the led, if you must produce a better output or result.

Some people argue that seeking other people’s input is a sign of weakness but from research, your ability to galvanise quality contribution from the led reduces your burden as well as gives the led a sense of belonging and that feeling of importance.

In your capacity as a leader or an individual person, you have to know that leadership doesn’t make you an island. It is supposed to be the bridge between your personal growth and the growth of your followers.

Originally written as part of a birthday remembrance collection, You Can Start again, an anthology of Inspirations billed to be released on March 17th, 2015.
by Victor Winners.

I hate this!

Oh, this sucks! I really hate doing this!
Have you ever heard yourself making this statement?

Well, i must confess, i do this a times. And i believe you do it too-unless you’re not a living being. Because being alive connotes mobility-being able to move, grow or change form. And in the process of being mobile, there are basically certain ‘stuffs’ you won’t really like.

I woke up today with two things in mind.
One of them was to complete and submit my academic assessment so I’ll not miss the dateline and the other was to fulfill a planned meeting with a friend.

To be very sincere, until that morning, I’d never recovered fully from the rigors of the previous day’s academic activities yet, right there with me was another bulk of assessment and dateline which must be met.

Right there and then, touching those books was the last thing i ever wanted to do. In fact, i found it so difficult to condition my mind to read. But, something happened.

After trying so hard to rouse my brain, to think and decide, the picture of a ‘fulfilled’ academic career flashed through my mind. Before i knew what was going on, my mind began to capture the imagery of what would happen, if i didn’t pick up those books.

At that instance, i could imagine the pain of a shattered dream, the loss of realizing how things would have changed if I’d done a little bit more and the agony of a self-made failure then, i realized, i had to make a choice.

Without so much as a pint of enthusiasm i picked up my books. Without pleasure but pressure and a faint spark of hope, i began work on my assessment despite its clumsiness, because I’d just seen the picture of a future.

I can’t tell the exact number of times I’ve had to do this neither can i describe exactly how we all feel, when we tend to get stuck at times but, i can say
with some authority, that  there will be times you’ll say: ‘oh this sucks! I really hate doing this’.

When such times come, we need to remember the big picture of a fulfilled future. When the present challenges of the mission seems to overwhelm the beauty of the vision, you need to hold unto that big picture.